Chemistry is needed in every partnership. Without it, there can
never really be a certain understanding between the two partners. The
relationship between you and your divorce attorney is nothing less than a
partnership. Of course, the relationship is client-attorney, and the
client may have the last say because he or she is the one paying. But
you and your attorney are still considered partners. You have to work
together to get the most out of the divorce. If the compatibility is
absent, perhaps you think about your partnership with him or her. So,
how can you tell if there's chemistry present?
You can mesh well
In short, you synchronize. You agree to almost everything. What happens when you don't synchronize? You argue. And, unfortunately, you can't solve nor do anything when you keep on arguing. When you finally did compromise on something, either one of you is unhappy or none is fully satisfied. How can you get a good compromise from the other party when you can't even resolve the internal issues between you and your attorney? You can only do two things. You can either work on your differences or find another attorney. It's won't be your loss. And this time, be sure that you can talk with you attorney for 5 minutes without raising your voice.
You respect each others differences
This is what I was talking about in the previous section. If you have worked on your differences, then the two of your can learn to respect each other. At least if there is respect you learn to listen and not just talk your arguments and theories away. The two of you should be considerate of each other. In order to do that, you have to remember these traits: respect, listening skills, and common sense. It's already given that your attorney should have common sense. If he or she doesn't have any, then he or she should have entered law.
Your attorney respects your opinion
Attorneys-especially arrogant ones-tend to become intolerable know-it-all. If ever your divorce attorney seems like he or she is full of him or herself, mark that as a red flag. Even though your divorce attorney is the expert when it comes to handling your case, he or she should also be sensitive to your opinions and feelings. After all, this is about you. And one more thing, you are the one paying your divorce attorney-not the other way around. You have the right to demand respect.
You have the same interests
Although this may seem immature, this kind of similarity helps in determining your chemistry. It does not matter if your divorce attorney is feigning his or her interest on the things you are interested in. at least there's an effort in his or her part to reach out to you and fill whatever gap you have between you. But, of course, it's still heart-warming and nice if you really do have common interests. If this is t he case, there's also a possibility of friendship even after the case already ended.
You can mesh well
In short, you synchronize. You agree to almost everything. What happens when you don't synchronize? You argue. And, unfortunately, you can't solve nor do anything when you keep on arguing. When you finally did compromise on something, either one of you is unhappy or none is fully satisfied. How can you get a good compromise from the other party when you can't even resolve the internal issues between you and your attorney? You can only do two things. You can either work on your differences or find another attorney. It's won't be your loss. And this time, be sure that you can talk with you attorney for 5 minutes without raising your voice.
You respect each others differences
This is what I was talking about in the previous section. If you have worked on your differences, then the two of your can learn to respect each other. At least if there is respect you learn to listen and not just talk your arguments and theories away. The two of you should be considerate of each other. In order to do that, you have to remember these traits: respect, listening skills, and common sense. It's already given that your attorney should have common sense. If he or she doesn't have any, then he or she should have entered law.
Your attorney respects your opinion
Attorneys-especially arrogant ones-tend to become intolerable know-it-all. If ever your divorce attorney seems like he or she is full of him or herself, mark that as a red flag. Even though your divorce attorney is the expert when it comes to handling your case, he or she should also be sensitive to your opinions and feelings. After all, this is about you. And one more thing, you are the one paying your divorce attorney-not the other way around. You have the right to demand respect.
You have the same interests
Although this may seem immature, this kind of similarity helps in determining your chemistry. It does not matter if your divorce attorney is feigning his or her interest on the things you are interested in. at least there's an effort in his or her part to reach out to you and fill whatever gap you have between you. But, of course, it's still heart-warming and nice if you really do have common interests. If this is t he case, there's also a possibility of friendship even after the case already ended.